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DIVA Diaries: Dude, Where's My Coffee?

The Diva Diaries is a weekly blog series chronicling the experience of a DIVA University student and client. For privacy purposes, the author chooses to remain anonymous, but in doing so, is able to candidly and unabashedly pour her heart out to readers while documenting her journey.

I wrote a few weeks ago about the wonderful relationships I’ve made while in DIVA University. My accountability partners are women I talk to every single day--sometimes ALL day long. I also am in close contact with other women in the group, and I know I can take any question or issue to our DIVA University Facebook group. I don’t think I would be able to have come this far without these women. It’s truly such a gift. We have each said several times that the money we spent on DIVA University was worth meeting each other alone. For that reason, I’m able to observe their journeys, which is so helpful and insightful. We are consistently sharing knowledge, experiences, and tactics. It helps to know that other women are going through the ebbs and flows of the dating game, and when a man flakes on a conversation or a date, it doesn’t feel so personal. One of my friends, Lauren, scheduled a date for this past weekend. Lauren just got professional photos done for her dating profiles, and had to really try to renew her attitude about dating. She wasn’t feeling optimistic for a long time, but once she changed her mindset, the prospects began flooding in. So, she scheduled a coffee date in Austin, Texas, where she lives, with a guy who she connected with on an app. She called this “Date 1 of 100 dates” --as Shay tells us to plan on going on 100 dates before we meet our husbands. Lauren arrived and met her date at the counter. What happened next threw her for a loop: he ordered his coffee, paid for it, and said to her, “I’ll see you outside.” She went into the bathroom immediately to call us. She was legitimately panicked and didn’t know what to do. I suggested she go sit outside without a coffee and see if he notices. Our other diva sister suggested she be more forthcoming and honest. So, Lauren walked outside and sat down. She told him, “Listen, I know you probably value your time, and I value mine, but I have to be honest--I only go on dates with men who buy my coffee.” This was a huge move for her. Her former attitude would have been to get angry, passive aggressive, or even act rudely toward him. But, DIVA University had trained her for months for that moment. He reacted by apologizing profusely, and going to get her coffee. They continued the date, and she relayed a few tidbits back to the group:

  1. He was MORE enticed by her because she did not give her phone number to him on the app. During their pre-date conversations, she told him she doesn’t give her phone number to people until they know each other better.

  2. At the end of the date, he asked if he had earned her phone number. EARNED!

  3. He asked her at the end of the date when he could see her again.

I’m truly amazed. None of us had ever dated like this before--and everything we’ve learned in DIVA University was put into play and it all worked like a charm! It was so invigorating to hear her story, and I haven’t seen her act more confident and powerful since I’ve known her. This was really what she needed to jumpstart the mission. She has several dates lined up now. She did the work, cleared her blocks, forgave, healed, and got some standards. I cannot wait to see what the Universe has in store for her next! Photo source: William Fortunato via

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This is gold! I love it so much.

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