The Diva Diaries is a weekly blog series chronicling the experience of a DIVA University student and client. For privacy purposes, the author chooses to remain anonymous, but in doing so, is able to candidly and unabashedly pour her heart out to readers while documenting her journey.
When I joined DIVA University last summer, the only prize I had my eye on was true love. I vaguely recall Shay mentioning that DIVA University gives you the tools to open up abundance in all areas of your life–not just love. But at the time, I wasn't interested in that. I felt content with my job and my paycheck. I had the mindset of, "As long as I can pay the bills I'm happy"--what a limiting belief that was. Well, while my soulmate hasn’t appeared in physical form yet, I am starting to see my bank account grow at a rate that I wasn’t prepared for. Now, calm down–I’m not rolling around in a bed of money or anything like that–but I have noticed my savings account growing and growing and this feels amazing!!! I am a single woman with two beautiful blessings in the form of children. Time and time again, I have heard from women who are too afraid to leave their toxic marriages because they fear doing so would drain them of financial resources. They become paralyzed fear over the idea that they wouldn’t be able to support themselves and their children without the married woman’s budget. And, while I don’t disregard that fear as valid (because believe me, I see how courts do single women dirty–child support is a JOKE), I am happy to report that is not the case for me. In fact, I am not the first woman I know that has become more financially well off post-divorce than she was when she was married. In fact, I'm noticing that trend as I get to know more divorced women. Why is it that we were struggling so hard financially when we had two incomes, but now that we just have one income, we're thriving? Hmmmm...now I know what Shay would say! Because money is energy. When you are being vampired by a narcissist, a narcissist will suck you dry of your identity, your energy, your love, your soul--and yes, especially your money. It makes no sense, yet it makes so much sense. Right before I divorced over two years ago, I leveled up in my career by the grace of god and found the company I currently work for. It was a blessing in so many ways–particularly financially. It wasn’t a windfall, but after working in my professional field for 13 years, I was finally getting paid decently. Anyways, when I signed up for DIVA University, I was terrified at the idea of spending thousands of dollars on my own personal development. At the time, it felt like I was “paying for love,” which is a common misconception. DIVA University has paid DIVIDENDS to me in more ways than my bank account. And it’s because of all those dividends (self-love, self-respect, feminine energy, confidence, peacefulness) that I’ve been able to, in the last week, buy myself a new iPhone, book a trip to Disney for my children and me, and pay for a few home improvement projects that I’ve been putting on hold for the last 5+ years. Excuse ME? Either I’m better at managing money or the universe is delivering abundance to me, because my salary has stayed the same. I will tell you a couple of my secrets to my newfound financial stability: 1. I have a list of prayers/mantras/manifestations I speak out loud each night. One of them is: “The money I spend comes back to me multiplied from expected and unexpected sources. And I am grateful.” 2. When it comes to spending money–especially on my home improvement projects–I have been able to take a few moments before the quote or meeting with the contractor to drop into my body and meditate on command. I speak my wishes out loud into the universe. For example, yesterday I had a painter stop by to quote me for doing a paint job on the main room in my home. Now, professional painters quoted my neighbor upwards of $2,000 for the kind of quote I was asking for. I was not wanting to pay $2,000. I decided that I thought $950 would be the most I would want to pay. I said out loud, “This painter will quote me $950 or less”--that’s it. I’m sure the fact that I threw on red lipstick and a red top before he stopped by to look at the space didn’t hurt a bit. I wanted to activate my feminine energy because after all, I’m a master seductress now! And guess what? That painter quoted me $850!!! I have to also mention--this manifestation technique has worked in so many other areas of my life. I speak the outcome I want to happen and I surrender it --and it almost always immediately turns out the way I manifested it to. Maybe these seem like small wins, but they are big wins for me, because they reinforce that I'm in complete control of the outcome. I am MANIFESTING and seeing the results. On tonight’s live, Shay said that when you unblock your love blocks, you also unblock what’s holding you back from making more money. I am really seeing that come to life. Though I am spending money, I’m doing so carefully with returns on my investments in mind. Putting money into my home is going to enable me to enjoy my space even more than I do now. My personal space is very important to me. It can make or break my mood, it can increase my energy, productivity, and inspire my creativity (which is my meal ticket). This investment will aid me in vibrating that much higher each day. The new iPhone, well, that was something of an impulse purchase. But I haven’t gotten a new phone in many years. In fact, I use my phone for my job(s) quite a bit–and the new upgrade will allow me to more effectively do my job, network, and utilize all the tools that aid me in my personal development each day. Therefore, it’s an investment in my growth. And Disney? Well, come on now. When I divorced my ex in 2020, I wanted to take my kids to Disney that year. I wanted to make something good out of something bad and give them a childhood. COVID put that on hold, but I am so ready to take the jump and have a memorable life experience with my kids that I never got! I cannot wait to see the looks on their faces, and for us to go on an adventure together. This makes me a better mother to my children because I have always wanted to give them a happy mom. This feeds my soul. I know I say this all the time--ALL THE TIME--but DIVA University is the best money I have EVER spent. It has opened so many more doors in my life than I could have even imagined. I took the leap of faith and committed to a program with no idea of what it would do for me. But I just believed. I listened to my heart, I searched my soul, and I believed! I have cashed in, and will continue to do so--all the way to the altar and beyond. Photo source: Eugene from Pexels.com