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Why the Slow Burn is Better than the Spark when it comes to Dating

That first moment you lock eyes with someone from across the room and your heart flutters and your pupils dilate is not necessarily "love at first sight." As romantic as the idea is--and believe me, it is--it's not always the case. However, so many of us get attached to love being magical and cosmic that we feel like we can decide at first glance if someone is our soulmate or not. FALSE! This dating myth keeps so many women in toxic loops, dating the same versions of the same men with the same bad haircut and the same emotional issues over and over and over until they're exhausted and banging down my door to help them understand what the issue is! Listen, if you're the type of woman who thinks she knows if a man is going to be worth her while by first glance and first glance alone, you are looking for the wrong types of men! It's not about the spark, it's about the slow burn. As women--especially women who are sitting in our feminine energy--it is VITAL and necessary for us to understand our feelings and how they are communicated to us in our bodies. Too often, when we are used to being in our masculine energy, we listen to our THOUGHTS, and not our feelings. This is where we get into trouble. We intellectualize, try to problem solve, and analyze our feelings instead of feeling our feelings! How do you know how you even feel if you're not used to turning off your thoughts and being in your body? Your body keeps the score, as they say. Here's my suggestion to you as you're navigating through the wonderful world of dating: stop overanalyzing, stop overthinking on dates. When you're getting to know someone, see how you feel while in their presence. Do you feel calm, peaceful, protected, and secure? Do you feel like yourself? Do they bring out the best version of you, or do they bring out an uncomfortable version of you? These principles translate in life as well! You can check out my Instagram page to find out how I use a muscle test (also known as kinesiology) to see what my body is trying to tell me about situations, people, etc. Many people believe muscle testing is the gateway to the subconscious mind! The muscle test is designed to bring subconscious information into conscious awareness. How about when it comes to dating, instead of looking for that immediate excitement that catapults us into a whirlwind of brain chemicals that are better than any drug you can imagine, we look for peace and calm. That way, our emotions are kept in check and we can get to know someone for who they are, lending us the opportunity to build and grow a connection that can withstand the test of time. If you're interested in getting started on your healing journey, go to today!

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