When women come to me for guidance and insight, they often feel “stuck” in some area of their lives. Whether it’s their love, career, or self worth, hitting that “brick wall,” is not only common, but it’s a blessing. Feeling “stuck,” is an extremely frustrating emotion, but without getting to that place of “stuckness,” we would never get fed up enough to do anything about it. Remember, brains are designed to keep us safe, not happy. The way it works is: your brain recalls everything you did yesterday and interprets it as good because it kept you alive. But your brain doesn’t know that yesterday you weren’t necessarily happy. If you don’t realize this, and you are running on autopilot through each day, you’ll reach a point where you look at yourself in the mirror and realize that you aren’t living the life you thought you would. When you begin to dissect the areas of your life that are leaving you feeling unfulfilled and unhappy, you might start to hear yourself think things like this: “My job is fine, but it’s just my boss that makes it intolerable.” “I like where I live, i just don’t like this tiny house.” “I want to start exercising for my health, but my gym is so far away and I have no time.” …and my least favorite: “My dating life is frustrating because there are no good men out there.” (ouch, yikes!) There are two common themes with all of the above statements. 1. All of them involve blaming external circumstances on internal feelings, and 2. YOU. YOU are the common denominator in all of your areas of unfulfillment in your life. When you unpack your issues, dissect them, and start realizing where your unhappiness is coming from, then it’s only a matter of time until you realize that it’s not everything else, but it’s really YOU that is causing all of your unhappiness. But WHY would anyone choose to be unhappy?! Well, they don’t. It’s all subconscious. Believe it or not, some people are completely comfortable existing in unhappiness and being displeased with life. There are many people who also feel comfortable and at home in being the victim of life’s circumstances. And if those people don’t wake up and take accountability for their lives and their choices, they will never live their lives. The moral of the story is this: We are all in charge of our lives. We all must take accountability for what is not fulfilling us. We are driving the bus, we are the makers of our own reality. Every day, we wake up and make a subconscious choice about our lives. If you want to be the type of person who goes from waking up filled with dread every day to waking up full of love and gratitude for how beautiful your life truly is, then I hope to hear from you soon! There is a way out of a life that’s unfulfilling. And what awaits on the other side is beyond your wildest dreams. Book your One on One call with Shay Your Love Diva today and get spiritual insights into what’s holding you back in your life, as well as a detailed plan on how to work your way toward a new life full of abundance.
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Great article! I relate a little too much to the feeling stuck perspective.
This was an interesting perspective. Lately, it feels like my brain wants to stay in critic mode. BTW, I booked a one on one, which I'm grateful for.
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